How do I voice myself in this tribe that celebrates the smaller female? I am not looking for advice or sympathy but a place to just speak freely about being a small woman.
Last night my partner measured me from head to toe. I'm in the market for a new bicycle. When my partner finished he said, " No wonder we're having trouble finding a bike for you, you stand just under 5' feet. I cried and said that I would not consider a kids bike. I shop the kids department already and I'm not riding a kids bike. Although, some bmx bikes are very cool.
I know what your saying, it's no big deal. Get over it girl, move on. There is more to worry about in this world. But for me and many other women who are under 5' feet it is a big deal. Sure it can be fun being the cute petite girl at the party, but as I'm getting older, it's no longer fun. As a yoga instructor, I do find wonderment and beauty in the human body. I do love my body, and I do like me. I'm just feeling a little blue this evening.
Today in class, I wondered what people really thought of me. Do they see me as this short freaky girl who speaks about clearing the mental chatter from within? I know, I'm worrying over nothing. But it's really challenging on so many levels to be a short person. I never thought about it too much until last night. It's fucking with me.
As a smaller woman, it's challenging to fit into clothes off the rack. I cannot reach the shelves in my closest nor the kitchen cabinets or the top shelves at the grocery store without a ladder or stool. I don't like standing in elevators, everyone around me towers above me. I feel like the midget girl everyone laughs at, silly I know. I want to just hide away.
On a positive note, men seem to really dig me. Most of my lovers have been tall men. They love my small form and curvy body. Sex with taller men as always been varied and exciting <giggle>. I have no problem finding partners.
Thanks for letting me rant about something that is not really worth ranting about.
Time for some chai tea and day dreams.... sigh.
Last night my partner measured me from head to toe. I'm in the market for a new bicycle. When my partner finished he said, " No wonder we're having trouble finding a bike for you, you stand just under 5' feet. I cried and said that I would not consider a kids bike. I shop the kids department already and I'm not riding a kids bike. Although, some bmx bikes are very cool.
I know what your saying, it's no big deal. Get over it girl, move on. There is more to worry about in this world. But for me and many other women who are under 5' feet it is a big deal. Sure it can be fun being the cute petite girl at the party, but as I'm getting older, it's no longer fun. As a yoga instructor, I do find wonderment and beauty in the human body. I do love my body, and I do like me. I'm just feeling a little blue this evening.
Today in class, I wondered what people really thought of me. Do they see me as this short freaky girl who speaks about clearing the mental chatter from within? I know, I'm worrying over nothing. But it's really challenging on so many levels to be a short person. I never thought about it too much until last night. It's fucking with me.
As a smaller woman, it's challenging to fit into clothes off the rack. I cannot reach the shelves in my closest nor the kitchen cabinets or the top shelves at the grocery store without a ladder or stool. I don't like standing in elevators, everyone around me towers above me. I feel like the midget girl everyone laughs at, silly I know. I want to just hide away.
On a positive note, men seem to really dig me. Most of my lovers have been tall men. They love my small form and curvy body. Sex with taller men as always been varied and exciting <giggle>. I have no problem finding partners.
Thanks for letting me rant about something that is not really worth ranting about.
Time for some chai tea and day dreams.... sigh.
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Re: Not happy with my petite status...
Tue, May 15, 2007 - 9:18 PMamen sista. if i could go the rest of my life without shopping for jeans i would not complain that's for sure. tell me please, why men's pants have two measurements but womens' have one? makes absolutely no sense.
i too have a small step stool that migrates around my house for me to reach things. we have a small apartment so i have to use the verticle space that i have. problem is the stool is a constant trip hazzard and the subject of many arguments.
eh - the vices of the petite!
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Re: Not happy with my petite status...
Tue, May 15, 2007 - 9:29 PMWhile I am a man and far from petite I did not grow in height or weight until I was nearly out of high school. Throughout high school I weighed about 105 pounds and was about 5'5" which was short and skinny(now I'm 6'0", 240). I certainly cannot try to put myself in your shoes and understand your feelings but I can tell you this:
I find petite women very alluring, especially if their body is well proportioned as yours is based upon your pictures. I find that very sexy. In fact, my mother-in-law is a petite woman (only 5') and is very well endowed and proportioned. When I was younger I often fantasized about her. At 80 she still looks fantastic and I love her hugs!!
I cannot understand what it is like regarding clothing, etc as you've mentioned in this post but I can at least tell you that you are a very lovely young lady and while you may be petite you are not petty!!
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Re: Not happy with my petite status...
Tue, August 21, 2007 - 12:48 AMWhat can I say, but it's not easy for plenty of people to find clothes that fit. I'm 5'6", 120 lbs, and my sizes sit somewhere between mens and the boys department. Apparently thin men don't exist to the garment industry. There's no "petite mens" section, or store that I've ever found.
Crowds? Elevators? I don't know what to tell you there, other than ask for a better view. I know I've adjusted my view plenty of times for other people who aren't as tall (be they children, grandma or whoever). As for elevators, I don't think anyone is comfortable in them. We all stand around not sure how to behave, staring blankly at the blinking lights. Kitchen shelves? Learn to use a stool. I have. Or get your kitchen rebuilt to your own scale. We did that for my mom, so now the counters are down at her level, and she's a lot happier. -
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Re: Not happy with my petite status...
Tue, August 21, 2007 - 11:14 AMTom, my step stool is my best friend at my house. LOL though TheBoy trips over it all the time and hates it..........he seems to forget it was *his* idea to get that thing. i think he was sick of me asking him to get things down for me all the time. LOL
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Re: Not happy with my petite status...
Tue, August 21, 2007 - 5:29 AMand it is also your petite size that makes
you so unique and special.
trust me as someone who would love to
find a woman your size it is very difficult
as you are in a very select group.
and anytime you want to rant feel free.
have a great day Vani ;-)
