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I am a very petite woman

topic posted Sat, June 2, 2007 - 8:10 AM by  suzy
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Hi. I am new here and very petite. I don't like it so I am hoping by being here will boost my self-esteem and confidence. I am 27 5'1 and weigh between 85-90 lbs. I am not anorexic just been naturally really thin and short all my life. Genetics. I have a big problem though with people always commenting on my size and the fact that I look 16. I have really low self esteem because of this and I get very shy and I cry a lot because I want to feel and look like an adult women and be treated like one. I have such a hard time finding clothes to fit so I can't just wear anything and I very jealous of seeing other women who can wear anything and look great. Are there any other petite women like myself? I feel very alone.
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  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Sat, June 2, 2007 - 8:47 AM
    you are absolutely amazing, and have nothing to be jealous about. any one would love to be you.......thanx for being real, and for being beautiful and you
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Sat, June 2, 2007 - 9:05 AM
    Hi Suzy,

    I can relate to what you are dealing with, I am even more petite than you at 4'11". it is difficult to be small in a society that tends to believe that bigger is better (of course there are exceptions here, supermodels are typically tall but thin). nothing is designed with petite people in mind, so we have to accommodate ourselves to what exists, which is generally a much larger mean. discrimination does exist, and I have noted coworkers subtly dismiss me in the way of establishing rank. of course I think this is bullshit, but somewhere along the way you just have to accept who you are and what you have. there is very little you can do to change your physical being, so it is most important to focus on your mind, b/c that is something you can actually work with. you do not have to accept negative treatment, and you can decide not to let people's comments effect you. look more about what it says about them. perhaps they are insecure? maybe they aren't that intelligent or original so they have to state the obvious and do not have the sensitivity to understand that you have probably heard the same comments thousands of times before?

    find a way to strengthen yourself, do something that makes you feel good about who you are, and that grounds you in your physical body. maybe a form of dance, or yoga? accept yourself as a woman, and other people will eventually start to treat you that way. of course, it is always a struggle, and you may have to work harder than others, but don't give up. accept yourself and let other people prove themselves to you.
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Sat, June 2, 2007 - 8:06 PM
    hi suzy! i also know how you feel to a point. i am 5 ft even and now probably about 93 lbs last i checked. people make comments to me about my size and about how young i look ALL the time. i know that i am an intelligent woman and so usually once i start talking a person can see immediately that i am older than i appear....so that doesn't bother me *so* much (besides, what woman doesn't want to look young??!!) - but the comments about how thin i am do bother me at times. usually it builds up until i end up unloading either here or on a close friend about it. unfortunately it is just something that i suspect i am going to always have to deal with in my life.

    i know it's not the best of news, but on the bright side - you can take comfort in knowing that you are not alone.

    i did look at your picture and while you do look youthful, i wouldn't say you look 16.... however that is only *one* picture and in that case it's hard to tell. i have heard that shorter hair can make you appear older, and of course cosmetics. i used to be a beauty consultant so i am a makeup freak - but everyone's different.

    i'm sorry to hear that it gets you down so much. *internet hugs through the monitor* just remember we're here for you if you ever want to vent. i do it all the time so these poor guys are used to hearing my whining already. ;) nice to meet you and i'm glad you decided to join in on our cozy little group. i bet you'll like it here.
    • Re: I am a very petite woman

      Sun, June 3, 2007 - 5:02 AM
      Thanks for the replies. I am glad to know I am not alone. I know I can't change how I look so I will have to come to accept it and like it and I do most of the time and one person comes along and shoots by self-esteem down with a comment. I need to learn not to let this bother me. I used to laugh off comments with people when they made them but now I don't. I let themknow it bothers me and I don't like it. It makes things a little weird but t least I don't have to pretend that something doesn't bother me and I also maybe that person will think before they say something again to someone else.

      Crista- You do sound a lot like me. Most people that get to know me treat me like and adult. It is the initial meeting of someone new and then right away they something like "how old are you?", "I thought you were a teenager?", "You are so tiny". Sometimes with friends, cause most of my friends are older, people think I am their daughter and just ignore me until they find out I am 27. Well I am dealing with it. I just got fed up dealing with this all my life and I am not going to take it anymore. I have to get it out and I definitely let people know how much it bothers me.

      One day at work this lady kept calling me little girl. She wasn't meaning anything mean but when people blurt things out like that in front of everyone...it embarresses me and makes me want to cry. I bodly told her though in front of everyone to STOP IT and that I don't like being called little girl. She did stop and was shocked that I stood up to her. She didnt realize how much that bothered me, but she does now and so does everyone else at work. One guy even told me he was proud of me for sticking up for myself and he liked that.

      Thanks for letting me rant here...it makes me feel better.
      • Re: I am a very petite woman

        Thu, June 28, 2007 - 8:45 AM
        Heya Suzy,

        honestly you really don't have anything to worry about and nothing to be affraid or ashamed of. In todays world of "EVERYTHING BIG" it is nice and refreshing to find someone cute, small and just plain sexy. I am a big buy, 6'3" and built like a brick wall, and with my characteristics I think that smaller and pettite women are the sexiest most attractive women I've ever encountered. Whatever they "lack" (even though it is not the right word as they do not lack a thing) in heigth they make up with spirit, pazzaz, vivaciousness and just a fiery passion that I have rarely encountered in any other woman.

        So don't be affraid to show off your pettite features. There are more than plenty men out there that enjoy your stature and would love to have you at their side.

        I hope you have fun.

        BBVD
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Sun, June 3, 2007 - 9:19 AM
    Holy shit, woman! You're gorgeous. Don't let ANYone give you a hard time about being smaller, thinner, and, yes, more attractive than they are. If it's women giving you a hard time, take a look at the source very closely. I'm willing to bet that every one of them either a) has trouble with their own weight, b) minds other peoples' business all the time anyway, despite no one giving them permission or listening to what they say, and/or c) they're just downright unhappy people who MUST find faults in those around them, so they might feel better about themselves.

    Oh yeah, welcome to the tribe!

    You're a hottie. You'll be getting carded for alcohol when you're 40. BE THANKFUL. Imagine if the opposite were true? Imagine if you looked 40 when you were 20! You'd look 50 at 30, and would believe that life was OVER already if such a thing were true, no?

    Consider that the cosmos doesn't give a shit about what others would LIKE you to do, and accept that you're just plain more svelte than the next lady. You'll see that EXACTLY these issues seem to be enough that Crista, our beloved moderator, gets showered with adoration, love, lust, and just plain Goddess-worship, and she has EXACTLY the same stupid, jealous, fat women in HER life, telling HER that she "needs to gain weight". Fuck 'em! It's none of their damned business, and besides, you're beautiful enough, just the way you are.

    Respect,

    T
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Mon, June 4, 2007 - 12:14 PM
    Welcome to the tribe where we all love that you are petite.

    Some great things about being petite:

    1) You can wear really high heels. Remember tall women want to be shorter than their men and get mad that they can't wear heels.
    2) You can enjoy a wild night of sex with your man throwing you around. Something that heavy women can't enjoy
    3) Reese Witherspoon is only 5'2"
    4) Have a professional wardrobe for those times you want to be taken seriously (Ann Taylor Loft has small sizes)
    5) Have a fun wardrobe for those times you want to feel young

    Other notes:
    1) vertical stripes make you appear taller
    2) low rise pants make your midsection look taller
    2) find a local tailor hand have them tweak the clothes you love that don't quite fit right.

    New Fan,
    Herb
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Tue, August 14, 2007 - 1:48 AM
    welp you dont have a pic so i cant make sure to never say anything if i run into you...
    just know i got a huge thing for short girls. so if by chance i do ever mention your hight if we do have a run in. just know im trying to keep from drooling. it might help if you keep that in mind the next time any one mentions your size
  • mel
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    Re: I am a very petite woman

    Thu, August 23, 2007 - 11:21 AM
    i dea;t with the same things and feelings at 21 and earlier and later, it's a hot mess to deal with and i'm sorry people are so rude to you. putting on weight helped me somewhat but it seems you cannot.
    here is what I did...
    a padded bra and a little dress that comes to your knees with 3 inch heels is what *I*chose to go out in. It's not super comfy or conveinent but it will do wonders for your self esteem.
    if you get capris pants or long sleeve shirts try looking in the pteite section or "short" jeans/pants if there is no petite section.
    it will be more tailored to fit you, looking for something good is a challenge but worth the effort because wearing ill fitting clothes emphasizes our size and makes the clothes look out of place.

    If you are a peircing or tattoo fan get just a few tasteful small ones. it will be tougher for people to assume you are too young.

    if your face will look great with short hair, get a great cut and dye job...it is said that women with your/my size and perpetual -youth- image issues will look more grown with short styled hair. I'd do it but my hair is too thin to pull it off.

    there is a glut of info on how to look less chubby or more young but advisors seem to think that looking too young or too thin isn't ever a problem. isn't it daft?

    I was ashamed of how i looked in high school, i was a 32 or 34 chest a size 6 and 36 inch hips. dressing very feminine worked wonders for me after i graduated but before then i wore loose baggy clothes and that';s supposed to be not so good. choose form fitting clothes more often.
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Mon, August 27, 2007 - 11:32 PM
    Duuuuude - ess....get a sewing machine & learn to sew a straigt line...to take things in & make them fit you purrrrrfectly....we are lucky! i am barely 5 feet tall & 91 lbs (since high school)...as you age...TOTAL advantage...people think i'm 15-20 years younger than i am....because of appearance...and then they think you are super wise & mature for being so young!!!! Celebrate your lovely healthy self!!!

    Have Fun!

    ~meow~
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Thu, September 20, 2007 - 7:59 PM
    Just wanted to welcome yet another hot petite woman to the fold. I worship the ground that women like you walk on.
    • Re: I am a very petite woman

      Sat, September 22, 2007 - 8:52 AM
      Great and good. But I'm tired of the samething as our thread originator. Now to add insult to injury (not), I'm 5'5" and weigh 90 lbs... and dammit I have short hair. Little boy look much? Not ! Gee, that so doesn't work for me as well, I just am tired of getting hell for not being what I may look like which is not a little boy. OK? I mean I'm a grown woman who has all the parts an dthebrains and I'm not a "little" anything save for size.

      Well, well, perhaps this is a safer place but the gen pop just doesn't get it that I'm NOT anorexic and this is what I've been given and have also thru yoga.... sighs.

      Rant off, thanks for the opp to rave!
  • Re: I am a very petite woman

    Wed, September 26, 2007 - 10:21 AM
    In fact I find very petite women extremely attractive. Here in Chicagoland we have several stores that cater to the petite woman. One such boutique is "The 99th Floor" on North Halstead Ave. Clothing sizes range from 00 to 9, with most being in the 3-5 range. The 99th Floor is just one of the many stores here that petites adore. You should be happy that you’re small, rather than big and tall. Many more men enjoy petites, rather than their counterparts. For your pleasures – in our community at least there are many manufactures that offer both very sexy and fashionable leather and latex clothing which will show off your sexy figures even better.

    As a Dom in the D/S community, I find that petite women are more energetic, and intricately sexier. Most portray their feeling more as if you have more nerve endings in your tiny bodies! Love you ALL. This community at least LOVES our petite women! ENJOY!
    Master LatexHer
    • Re: I am a very petite woman

      Thu, November 15, 2007 - 11:09 AM
      Yall need to realize there are many men that adore petite women. Not all men are great big and we live in this giant size society too. Small women with petite bodies, small breast and lil round butts are wondrful and a great turn on to many. My answer to some big dumb ass that tries to put me down because I'm not six foot is that my legs touch the groung just fine.
      Kisses kisses
      • Re: I am a very petite woman

        Thu, November 15, 2007 - 12:06 PM
        well Sparky, i guess i don't really care so much about being adored by men, or being a turn on. that is not really high on my priority list. i want to be considered an equal to everyone, including women.....and i want people in the business world to realize that i am a grown woman and i *am* capable of doing a job well...... maybe exceed their expectations even. and i want people to stop looking at me and immediately assuming i'm anorexic.
        • Re: I am a very petite woman

          Mon, November 19, 2007 - 9:42 AM
          It sounds a bit like you've become rather emotional about you being small. When we come across this type of issue in other areas it usually is the result of some sort of negative occurrence in a womans life. I am available for a private chat - on Yahoo Messenger if you care to talk about it >

          Master LatexHer
          • Re: I am a very petite woman

            Mon, November 19, 2007 - 7:45 PM
            well, LatexHer, i think that it's more of a nerve that gets hit when issues like this are reduced to a woman wanting to be wanted. it's not always about that.
            • Re: I am a very petite woman

              Tue, November 20, 2007 - 10:01 AM
              >>i want to be considered an equal to everyone, including women.....and i want people in the business world to realize that i am a grown woman and i *am* capable of doing a job well...... maybe exceed their expectations even. and i want people to stop looking at me and immediately assuming i'm anorexic. <<

              Crista, good for you for defining your self image based on things other then your desirability.
              From my relatively uninformed POV, it seems to me like you are doing fine. You have a job that you seem to like and based on the posts you place when you sell a property you seem to be suceeding. Inphotos you look petie, but certainly not unhealthy or anorexic. I say anyone who treats you as less then a grown woman is displaying their own ignorance and not reacting to the real you at all.
              • Re: I am a very petite woman

                Tue, November 20, 2007 - 10:33 AM
                THANK YOU Rich. it is good to see that there are people out there who see past appearances. i DO love my job - and unfortunately i have found that my young appearance has been a hurdle that i have to jump over many times with leads and potential clients. BUT - i work hard at overcoming that and i think i'm doing okay so far. :) it means a lot to me to know that some people can see that.
  • K
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    Re: I am a very petite woman

    Tue, November 20, 2007 - 6:48 PM
    Well...just ran thru the postings...and lots of great comments.

    We are all dealt a deck of cards coming into life...and our mission is to enjoy and flourish with what our strengths are. Anyone who thinks a "petite" woman is less of a person or woman or whatever, because of size.....isn't a person worth wasting any of your thoughts and time with, that's for sure. Now...with that behind me.....

    I'm 6'1"...and I've always been partial to petite women. Now if she a brunette and has a great smile and a wonderful attitude....whoo lala!!

    ....Enjoy......

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